Unconditional Parenting: Moving from Rewards and Punishments to Love and Reason
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Product Description
Most parenting guides start with the question “How can we get kids to do what they’re told?” and then proceed to offer various techniques for controlling them. In this truly groundbreaking book, nationally respected educator Alfie Kohn starts instead by asking, “What do kids need — and how can we meet those needs?” What follows from that question are thoughts for working with children rather than doing things to them. One basic need all children have, Kohn argues, i… More >>
Unconditional Parenting: Moving from Rewards and Punishments to Like and Reason
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July 30th, 2010 at 10:53 am
Is this why I have to place up with so many brats when I go out in public? Is this the same clueless fool who said you can’t spoil a child? At least he admits one of his goals is to tear down the individualism this country is founded upon by replacing systems of rewards and punishment, and the goal of responsibility with navel staring anarchy. Newsflash, author, we already have a society based on no parenting parenting, I shudder to envision a world of his making that is even more so.
Rating: 1 / 5
July 30th, 2010 at 1:15 pm
Kohn gives text book advice for text book situations. “Kohn, how about joining the real world?”Unconditional Parenting: Moving from Rewards and Punishments to Like and Reason
Rating: 1 / 5
July 30th, 2010 at 4:03 pm
Children stand on their legs and adults will stand on their brains.
A 5-year ancient grandchild, given the opportunity, knows better (not better, as in a comparison, but better in knowing the world as it is at any given moment) than grown-ups who act and reckon on mere suggestion.
The world draws upon your curiosity. Any grandparent who pays attention knows (not as in logical argument) this. That’s what grandchildren teach them. That’s all.
Rating: 5 / 5
July 30th, 2010 at 5:40 pm
First of all, this book gives thoughts that have absolutely no practical application. For example, he suggests that ideally you should never praise your kids, because they should learn to feel proud of themselves, not rely on your pride. Sure, they should feel proud of themselves, but aren’t they more likely to just feel terrible about themselves if they grow up with parents who refuse to hand out praise?
More importantly to me, as a Christian parent, is the fact that he sites religion as one of the reasons parents these days are too conditional in his opinion. He really states that the God of Christian and Jewish religion is the ultimate example of conditional like, and goes on to say that these religions teach God likes you only if you like him. I can’t respect anything he has to say after reading that kind of nonsense.
Rating: 1 / 5
July 30th, 2010 at 7:43 pm
This book is fantastic in theory but excellent luck putting into practice!!
Some of his ONLY real advice was to let a child (while in public) ride out a temper tantrum. Well, what about kids you flail, bite, hit, throw, and do anything possible while having a tantrum….what then?
There is nothing in this book I don’t already do.
Saying “Excellent job” is terrible? Come on, lets all live in the real world!
Somebody give me some REAL advice for the extreme situations!!
Rating: 1 / 5